The Guilt of Love

So many who know real love fear new love for the guilt of releasing or over reaching their once true love.

Is it not good to pair?

Are you afraid to find what we could share in the guilt of some love between us?

How can we love again when we've loved so good before and not diminish the flame of what was so sure but burnt too hot and extinguished too soon.

Let me challenge your guilt with this kiss.

New love can never replace that once true love just makes us better at discerning fact.

Relax...sit back and enjoy this feeling of calm...ohhh that's just Stage 1.

Within this realm seek out and test my truth. Once you feel the realness of my warmth and trust its true...ahhhhh now that's Stage 2.

Beyond this door lys the guilt of our fear. I am not your she and you are not my him. But the OUR has chance to find it again.

Deep breath...are you in for the real?

Guilty...

What's Really Missing?

A conversation with a man I am fond of inspired these thoughts and I figured I'd share them in case anyone else was challenged for having reflections of a past relationship.  Please don't misinterpret that I mean bringing up an ex is okay because it's not! However, if you are asked about a past relationship be honest in your reply. The person you are with, if they are somewhat reasonable, is more than likely attempting to figure out some things about you and is conducting their own type of research. If you are up front and honest about who you are and things you've done, ultimately the flow of your current relationship will be continued growth because it is based on a good foundation.  DISCLAIMER: IF YOU'VE BEEN VERY FRIENDLY WITH YOUR COOCH OR MAN TOOL KEEP THAT TO YOURSELF! MISS SCARLET WILL NOT BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR STATUS CHANGING FROM HIS/HER "BOO" TO HIS/HER "SIDE CHICK/SIDE DICK". STAY TUNED FOR MY OFFICIAL TAKE ON THE SIDE CHICK/SIDE DICK AND ALL THAT ENCOMPASSES.

In my opinion there is not a fine line between missing someone and being glad you dealt with them, but happier they're gone. Let me be very clear, I said REFLECTIONS upon being asked are what's acceptable not MISSING their presence! If you're missing that someone while dealing with another person maybe you're not quite ready to move forward. Let's review some definitions to make sure you understand the difference.

MISS (noun): A disadvantage or regret resulting from loss.
       
REFLECT (intransitive verb): 1. To think quietly and calmly. 2. To bring about a specified appearance or characterization.

Did you read that? If you thought you missed them can you now say it out loud after seeing they have you in some sort of disadvantaged state? If you still say yes you need to make steps to either resolve the issue between the two of you, or move forward for your personal well being.

If you, like myself, can truly say you can realize personal growth as a result of a past relationship then you my friend are a confident reflector. You realize that denying the positive impact on your life by another human being is pointless, but you can truly say you don't miss their physical presence in the current stage of your life. You have embraced the fact a relationship has ended but the experience was beneficial. I'm here to tell you not to deny that someone has enriched your life in one way or another in spite of the context of the relationship. It may have been imperfect, unconventional, or even forbidden but it managed to bring some sort of enlightenment to your current state of mind and outlook so don't wish it never happened. Hold on to my aforementioned point that loving someone doesn't mean you're supposed to "be" together.

All experiences in life and love should be turned positive so they are absorbed for your personal improvement and not your emotional demise. And it's okay if you need someone to talk to for guidance through that process! Past relationship achievements can sometimes make the person you are currently involved with the recipient of some exceptional behaviors. Just be sure to provide positive reinforcement for the person you are now liking and learning to love and reassure them of the position they currently hold in your life. If you want to keep it hood and grimy we could sum this all up in a few words, "Don't chase them replace them!"

Just today's thought...Thanks for reading!

The COOL Factor

As adults we all know men and women have different definitions of words and terms used in the course of a relationship. Most men have figured out when a woman says "nothings wrong" there is usually absolutely SOMETHING wrong. If the man cares he'll do some digging and get to the root of the issue and make corrections. Make no mistake, the artistic use of words works for both men and women. Today we're going to discuss the male use of the word "COOL". You may have heard your man use this word in a number of contexts. Ladies this can be a dangerous word to hear him utter, or it may actually be the extent of the depth of his archaic form of communication. Let's view some examples that Miss Scarlet deems potentially beneficial to your relationship, and some that you may need to revisit and develop an action plan to address.

1.  The Anthony Hamilton "If you're cool then I'm cool and we're cool." Interpretation: He is just so content with the flow of your relationship he's beside himself. Your happiness makes him happy but the man thing prevents him from being all mushy...AWWW! He is definitely a keeper so look past his choice of wording and be thankful he's at all in touch with his emotions.

2.  "Oh you're going out again...that's cool."  Interpretation: "I'm sick of hearing about you shaking your ass in the street every weekend but I got something for that ass!" He's still riding with you but you need to take your activity down a peg before he goes on an ego trip. A man's ego trip leads him down a path paved with bottles of liquor and nameless chicks. I don't care what they say, no man wants to think he's in a competition with an imaginary dude in the club. Ladies we know we go out to cut up for a little while and escape from reality but more than likely your man thinks you're out making change. (Tell him that's only the first Saturday of the months that end in "Y" heh heh heh)

3.  "Everything's cool", with a raised octave on the end. Interpretation: Somewhere the shits gone wrong! He is either entertaining bitches or getting ready to engage in some foul activity. Keep him close to you for a while. If he's going out with friends, bring your ass. If he's planning a trip, you book your flight right along with his. And pull out the bag of tricks....that never hurts! His man thing truly wants you there and you can get it back to the mellow tone level of 'COOL'. But never ever underestimate outside bitches. They lay in wait for you to slip off your game. Nevertheless, I have faith in you so do the damn thing!

4.  "Everything is cool", in a controlled vocal range from start to finish. Interpretation: You can actually take this dude on face value. He's probably living behind a wall of emotional hurt and doesn't want to verbalize how he feels for fear of rejection or jinxing your "thing". Be patient and see where this secretly passionate member of the male species takes you. You may be pleasantly surprised especially if his actions match up to his verbalization.

5.  "We're cool". Interpretation: He's really saying "I'm a player but you're in my top three." He's relaying to you in a twisted sense that you matter to his flow but you're not the only one. What he doesn't realize is you speak the language of cool also and know exactly what he means. If you're smart you have your top three line up on the bench just like he does. I can best describe this one as a seesaw effect. He takes you up, you take him up, he takes you down, you take him down...until you grow nauseous and want to get off this ride and get on the merry go round. While the seesaw is up and down and gives you that rush, the merry-go-round stays at a steady speed and everyone stays on the same level at all times. Make sense? Good!

There are also women out there who speak cool so men you can apply this to them as well. Just remember when "COOL" for you is Interpretation #4, it may be heard as Interpretation #3 to your significant other. Just my opinion.

Thanks for reading!

TODAY'S THOUGHT...You so nasty!

You ever wake up one day to be disgusted by the sexual past of the person with whom you’re currently involved in a relationship? Can you turn that hoe into a husband or a housewife? Does their reputation of being a playboy keep you from completely letting down your guard or discourage you to make a whole hearted attempt to trust them? Fear not my people that hoe might be up for the challenge of monogamy. Sure your friends might remind you of all the other women he’s been with throughout your city. Yes she may still get looks when you go out from the thirsty dudes you know hit it back then. But be a forgiver, especially when things happened before your tenure and are out of your control. Obviously something drew you together so go out on a limb and trust them until they give you a reason not to continue.

The bottom line is don’t nobody know your hoe like you do! If he treats you right then you might just be the prize he’s been holding out for, and you may just be the last benefactor of all the “experience” he’s had. Think of it like this, that whore has been hoeing all those years for your benefit! Everyone has a past so don’t let that prevent you from having a good future. 

HAPPY FRIDAY!! 

Today's Thought...Too good to be true

You can't jointly repair your relationship if one of you doesn't think it's broken or slightly damaged.  Don't be that person whose never wrong and eyes stay closed to a crumbling foundation.  You will eventually be left standing on unstable ground.  When you do realize you're falling and reach out to grab hold of your partner for support you may just find they're no longer waiting for you to extend that hand.

I'd rather be with an imperfect man who wants to work through his/our issues than one who already thinks he's perfect.  Beware of the "Perfect" man or woman.  Someone whose perfect doesn't need your partnership.

Today's Thought...Say no to repeat offenders

The moment you know you are over someone they seem to sense it and attempt to stick their foot back in the door. Stay focused and remember why your interaction stopped in the first place.

Be strong! Don't let them ease their way back into your routine. Especially at the risk of interfering with something new and fresh for you. Step outside your situation and try to view it as if it were someone else. What do you see as the potential issues? What advice would you give? Consider taking that same advice and applying it to yourself.

Life is too short to be a repeat offender of bad decisions.

Just today's thought.

Today's Thought...HMMM

Hey Girl! How old are your man's kids? Oh you don't know if he has any...oh okay.

What's his mother's name? Oh you don't know because he doesn't talk about her or you've never met her....hmm well okay.

Gurl does he own his own home? Wow...you've never been to his house. Well then.

Does he snore? Oh he asks you to leave after sex because he has to get up for work in the morning? Gee...okay.

Girl does he drive crazy? Oh you don't know because he always has you meet him there...ohhhh.

And you said he's your 'boyfriend'? Oh okay.

Today's Thought: Think before you label someone as a key contributor to your life. Know the difference between a booty call and a date.

The Simple Man

I wish I had a dollar for each time I spoke to a man seeking advice on women and he says "I'm simple". Ladies, believe it or not most men just want some basics from us and they'll be more than satisfied to keep all the money and penis action inside the sanctity of the home. 

Here's what men who openly engage me in this conversation topic desire for themselves.

#1 FOOD: Yes you have to feed him. A man loves a piece of meat. Whether it's on bread, baked in the oven, or the burnt part is smothered in gravy. He will appreciate the mere fact that you worked all day and still thought of his need to have nourishment.

#2 A Clean House: A hard working man does not want to come home and step over your shoes, bra, and paperwork as soon as he hits the door. Take time to tidy up the place and if your time is short at least do the dishes and make the bed! Clean dishes don't stink and a made bed makes the messiest room look like it's still put together well. I hate to tell you this is more important than sex. A man will go to an untidy woman's house for sex but he won't stay there!

#3 Acknowledgement of Manhood: Every man wants to know he runs the house...even if he really doesn't! You don't have to tell him he don't do this and he don't do that. Fact is he knows where he falls short and it bothers him. It's hard sometimes, but try to find the good in everything he messes up and tell him you still love him for his manly way of handling the situation.

#4 Appreciation Fellatio: ILL you don't do that! Well guess what? Someone will! Simply stated "Handle Your Business." If your man ever says to you "That's Okay" while you're in the middle of pleasuring him you done gone wrong gurl! You need to go back to basics and seek some help. Shoot me an e-mail or something! Secret: The more you enjoy it he will enjoy it, but if you don't enjoy it he won't enjoy it either!

#5 An Occasional Stranger: This is not what it sounds like. While I've never spoke to any man of any race, ethnicity, or religion who denied the fantasy of having a threesome, this is not what I mean! I mean go in the closet and pull out a wig and turn on your alter ego. Men love variety, which is why a lot of them cheat....according to them. You can be that variety all wrapped into one woman. Take time to do your face and turn on an accent, put those heels on, and put the kids to bed. He won't know what hit him! Don't worry about your imperfections. Men love women and most really don't care about what we think we have that looks wrong.

#6 Listen to Him: I don't care what he's talking about but just listen. He doesn't want any answers he just wants to be heard. Every male statement does not need your womanly intuitive response. Remember he is the head of household so make him want to continue to play that role. Be thankful he's not shutting down because that might mean he has someone else to talk to and has already done so before he came home to you.  

#7 Stay Overall Beautiful: Lots of married men say to me their wife just doesn't care about herself anymore. Ladies, don't be this woman! Yes we get older and go through hormonal changes etc... However, we must get medical help for these issues. Rule Number One is to keep yourself in a shape you like and he'll like it too. So what you're a stay at home wife! Still do your hair and wash your face. He encounters attractiveness all day, but if you keep your game tight he will be in a mindset where he still thinks you're the most beautiful woman in the world.

All I'm saying is when women get lax men get slack. Then when the man looks to trade you in for a newer model you act like you don't know why. NEVER GET COMFORTABLE!! There's always some heffer looking to take your good man away from you, and if you don't stay in his head the right way she may slither her way into your life.

In a man's head there's nothing more attractive than a beautiful woman who can cook, keeps her house moderately tidy, makes him feel good, is not a sex grudge holder, and can hold a conversation. HELLO! If you suspect your man of still creeping with his ex I guarantee it's because she fulfills at least 3 of the points listed above. Men are truly simple but not always balanced. That's okay because that's why women  were created. If you have a good man balance him.

Until next time thanks for reading!

Today's Thought..Can you put a time on love?

Is there a perfect time frame that must pass to feel love for someone? Is there a rule that says when it's okay to feel that way? People say "it was love at first sight" and get married in less than twelve months into a partnership that is meant to last their lifetime. Does it not take time to gather information about someone and learn what they stand for and then make the determination of what you feel for them? As human beings we have the ability to filter out feelings and interpret words but those same flawed humanistic qualities can lead us into premature trust. And sometimes something much worse like being in a home with someone but still feeling alone.

Playing devil's advocate I pose these questions. Are the people who make their decision about who they will spend the rest of their life with in a matter of months onto something the rest of us are missing? Don't we say life is short so what are the reservations about taking chances with "love"? The scary thing is there's no perfect scenario and no perfect answer. F@*k It!

Just today's thought

THE FACT CHECK...FOR WOMEN

THE FACT CHECK...FOR WOMEN

If the man you’re with is not caring for the existing children he has with other women it may be a sign that you should not attempt to procreate the earth with him as the genetic donor. He has already tried it with a few others and doesn’t need any further input from you. While his mouth may say you guys would make beautiful babies, and you would be a wonderful mother, you must think beyond this superficial game and look at facts. The facts are far more important than his false support of your maternal feelings. Fact checking can also deter you from being another member of his “parental entourage”.

Take a moment to review the following. If any apply to your man’s current situation with the mother(s) of his child(ren) you may want to seriously review your research and seek alternate arrangements.

For the record I hate the term ‘Baby Mama’ but I will use it for the purpose of impact herein. Thank you.

FACT #1: The Baby Mama Choir. Defined: He has terrible relationships with all of his children’s mothers and they sing and shout their displeasure every chance they get.

Research Findings: They all have an issue with him, so what is the very basic source of the problem? A, He is either still having physical relationships with them and they’re bitter because he continued to move on and bring other women into the cult. B, He is a deadbeat and doesn’t provide any assistance with their care emotionally or financially.

What this means for you: Flag!! He can’t feed or teach any life skills to one more human being. Truthfully, he’s not even doing so for the ones he’s already obligated to by law. You may want to seriously weigh all the probable outcomes of having to be a single mom.

FACT #2: The Hopeful Baby Mama. Defined: The mother of his child(ren) is a silent parent partner in the care and decisions made for their wellbeing.

Research Findings: This may be the case because he is a control freak and she’s scared to rebut anything he does with the children. He may even used to beat her ass or be emotionally abusive and degrade her in some manner. In most cases she has tried to begin a new romantic relationship and he threw a wrench in it with his bullshit. Ever heard “I don’t want any other men around my kids”? The very worst would be that you personally never see or hear from her because she doesn’t even know about you! Hmmm…interesting.

What this means for you: You may want to hold back some of your feelings about him until you get it all figured out and can identify exactly what type of relationship exists between him and the children’s mother. There may even be the possibility they still have an ongoing physical relationship. He makes her deathly afraid to move on, or she remains hopeful they will be together again one day. Yep! All while trying to reel you into the trap.

FACT #3: The Perfect Baby Mama. Defined: He already has children but all the women he shares them with are crazy…according to him.

Research Findings: This is the man who wants you to bear his children. By the way, he already has children but you’ve never met any of them. He wants to keep trying to build a family with the perfect woman, in the perfect setting, and oh yes just forget about the other families he left behind. They didn’t work out because they didn’t understand HIS plan for them.

What this means for you: Aww he loves you and you’re soul mates...nah-ah...RUN! He may be just a little bit crazy and if you attempt to deviate from his plan he may actually try to kill you. No joke! This ain’t where you wanna be. There’s a reason why he wants to leave his past, including his own flesh and blood children, in the past. Don’t stick around to find out why because he may have that psycho “Stepfather” movie syndrome.

FACT #4: The Long Awaited Baby Mama. Defined: This is the man with no children who has been waiting his whole life for you to be the bearer of his seed.

Research Findings: I hate to say it but every man was not intended to contribute their genes to the good of society. Sometimes a higher power knows all too well this person would not breed any good for mankind. But here you come thinking you’re speciyal because you found some man who has no kids, and you build up his ego so he thinks this makes him some type of prize.

What this means for you: Some women just have to learn on their own but try to be smart and discerning. All I can say is look for the red flashing lights that blind you from his eyes when he’s kicking his bullshit. If he lives with a family member, has no steady income, has no medical insurance, and no self motivation please, please don’t give him anything he can’t handle….like a HELPLESS HUMAN BEING WHO RELIES ON HIM FOR EXISTENCE!!! (Sigh)

I hope these facts are not found in your current relationship or arrangement. My overall point is just because you have the parts; it doesn’t mean you have the emotional strength, financial means, or patience to raise children. The same is true for women. If a woman has children that live with other family members and she just visits them on the weekend, this may be a sign that she is not who you want to start a new family with for one reason or another. Do your research on prospective co-parents of interest. While there aren’t perfect parents, some reasonable sense of accountability and responsibility should be evident in their life.

Throwing all this out the window, ask yourself one question. “Can I effectively communicate with this person for the rest of my life?”

Look out for The Fact Check for Guys coming soon. Thanks for reading!

TAME THAT THANG!

Tame That Thang!

DISCLAIMER: This information may or may not have been tested by anyone I know, myself personally or my peers, mentors, co-workers, or family members. It in no way reflects anything I’ve done, plan to do, haven’t done, or will admit to doing. It is raw and uncut. Read at your own risk!

How many shows can they air about women who don’t know who fathered their children? It is unbelievable that some of us can’t get the game right and fall into the category of “whore” for all the world to watch and mock. Look no further chicks! I’m gonna drop some knowledge on your coochies and show you a method for optimal sharing. After you read this you’ll have a few pointers on how to spread the joy of cooch all around your respective cities and towns in a safe methodical manner.

Here are some basic tips to keep your game tight, your face off the talk shows and your name out the streets.

Tip #1 Be smart and always have protected sex.

You should also always have our own supply of condoms. There is no shame in the B.Y.O.C. practice! If you have a steady flow of penis providers you can also invest in a box of your brand to leave on site.

Tip #2 (Everyone should always practice safe sex as indicated in Tip #1, especially when you have multiple partners, but Tip #2 is for those who keep it real with themselves.) Select no more than two penises that you intend to engage in unprotected sex.

Any penises in excess of three should absolutely be played with in a protective manner. This will lower the STD odds and also help you narrow down the pool of sperm donors should you become pregnant. Ladies, use the condoms!

Tip #3 Avoid multiple penises within the same geographic location.

If this is unavoidable you must disclose the presence of a “friend” in the area to one of them. I didn’t say give them all the information but you must cover yourself in case you’re spotted in the neighborhood on a regular basis. This could be bad and come back to bite you on the nipple. Ouch!

Tip #4 Stay Clean.

Maintain a “ho-on-the-go” bag. If you’re a readily available cooch-sharer you must keep your maintenance products handy and easily accessible. Bag should include key items like your favorite fragrance, wash cloth/wipes, toothbrush, condoms, lube, change of clothes etc.

Tip #5 Avoid friendly fiascos.

If you can help it, unless you’re the groupie type, don’t sleep with men who are friends or run in the same circles. While you are free with your sexuality you don’t want to be known as the neighborhood whore who slept with a few sets of cousins, or brothers, or father-son combos etc. You will never, ever live that down!

Tip #6 NO PAPARAZZI!!

Never ever agree to making sex videos or taking naked photos! Do your best to think down the line when the arrangement goes bad where those things will resurface. If you’re still dumb and/or in your 20's and this is not for your husband just say NO! Remember you can’t dispute a photograph that shows distinguishing marks on your body. When you do settle down you’ll have to disclose this information “just in case” that man, who still can’t get over what you did to him twenty years ago, decides to seek revenge.

Tip #7 Don’t confuse SEX for LOVE.

This is very important. Please note that just because men are sleeping with you, they don’t necessarily have or desire any type of emotional attachment to you. If you can’t handle the rotation get off the ride!

Heed my words!
I’m trying to shed some light on the fact that women have needs just like men. However, ladies we have to keep it real with ourselves and accept the fact that we are scrutinized to the fullest when it comes to sexual activity.

Undoubtedly, there is a stigma for women who are liberal lovers more so than men who engage in the exact same acts. We must always remember it’s not what we do; rather it’s how we do it. Please don’t expect to have a green light from society to fulfill all of your lustful urges with every Tom, Dick, and George who gets an erection. There are many rules to the game but these are just a few tips to keep you on the right track. I hope I've at least given you some precautions to consider adding into your personal routine.

At the end of the day stay a lady and don’t do anything you’re ashamed of that keeps you from looking at yourself in the mirror. Most importantly Be Safe!

Until next time….thanks for reading!

LIBERTY Over LONGEVITY

Liberty Over Longevity

This is for those of you caught up in that stifling-going-no-where long term relationship. You know the one that forces you to bring him to your family’s house on Thanksgiving and everyone gives that fake “Oh hiiiiii Greg”, and as soon as he leaves the room the eyes roll. Ladies some of you are the ones getting the eyes rolled at too! We’re not exempt from this one. It’s somewhat similar to the needed relationship but in my opinion even more damaging because it’s been going on so long. This particular relationship drives you to thoughts of wrongdoing that may lead you, or your family members, to criminal activity. If you’ve ever envisioned doing something just a little not nice to the person whose been sleeping beside you for too many years its time for Self Liberty over Suffocating Longevity.

Do you sleep in different rooms at least two nights out of the week?

Do you avoid going directly home from work because you don’t want to look at him?

Is it physically sickening to hear him or her speak?

Hmmm. If you answered yes to any of these questions maybe it’s time to rethink your situation.

REPEAT AFTER ME:      It’s okay to be alone.

                                           Just because I live alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely.

                                           I don’t need this person to define me.

                                           I will put him/her out before I pee on their toothbrush.

                                           I will not set fire to their belongings.

Sound crazy? It only sounds crazy if you’ve been lucky enough to avoid a relationship that’s grounded in bullshit. Still don’t get it? Here’s a visual. Imagine a pile of shit in the middle of your backyard that’s been growing for so many years and now stinks so bad you can’t even smell it anymore because you’re used to it. Your neighbors and loved ones can’t even visit because of that funk permeating from your house. Why do we tolerate these types of relationships? Here’s my take on it and some advice toward the first step of recovery.

Anything you have for a long time begins to grow on you. Those old slippers with the sole coming apart that are so cute and you can’t throw away because your mom brought them. Those favorite jeans you’ve washed so much they now have a hole in them but they fit your butt perfectly. Believe it or not an old stagnant yet visible mate is exactly in the same category as these non-essential things. Yes he was there for you many, many moons ago but you were there for him too! There’s no need for the two of you to try to hold on to fibers of a relationship for the mere point of saying “and we stiiiill together”. The truth is just because it’s still there doesn’t mean it still fits in your life plan.  

Longevity = PROLONGED EXISTENCE-PERMANENCE-ENDURANCE

I admit everyone has their own timeline and level of tolerance for different things so we can’t see our own mess sometimes. However, when you walk into your home with a knot in your stomach its time to liberate yourself for physical and emotional relief. When you get to the point of answering yes to the questions I posed above it’s time to move on. If you feel this way you need to then ask yourself what it is exactly you’ll miss if that person is no longer there with you? If your answer to this question leans toward things that are superficial or materialistic you may have crossed that line into the bad relationship vortex. If it’s about the rent maybe it’s time to downsize into something you can hold down on your own. I’m not saying it’s ever easy to transition from having someone in your space all the time to having a quieter house but my mantra inevitably kicks in “Peace of Mind Is Priceless” and liberty is for all.

Liberty = FREEDOM INDEPENDENCE EMANCIPATION

We can come up with numerous excuses why we stay intertwined with certain people. Whether we say it’s sex-monetary support-low level companionship…whatever the excuse comes out to be! You CAN survive on your own. People do grow apart and sometimes people should grow apart if their goals aren’t complimentary and the situation is becoming volatile.
 

My final thought is this. If you related to any of this content ask yourself is this longevity worth losing my liberty? While you think about it please, please don’t pee on his toothbrush.

Until next time thanks for reading!

 

Today's Thought...Whose more vulnerable?

Contrary to popular belief Men are more vulnerable and worry more about how they are perceived by the opposite sex than Women. I think this is why God made us for them. He knew we were a good thing and absolutely necessary to keep the man from completely obliterating himself as a result of a bad ego trip.

The next time your man does or says something absolutely stupid that shows his vulnerability don't flip out and yell or display your superior intellect. Believe me there will plenty more occasions when you get to challenge him and be right about a situation. Just look at him and smile, rub his head and tell him you love him. It's important for you to know when he's in the state of macho instability and it's not the right time for the She-Ra type response. Just let him go through the wave of emotion until he realizes he's being an ass. He'll come down and you'll be there waiting with the towel to brush the dust off his ego. Every good man deserves to have his moment and a good woman knows when to bite her tongue off!

'Til next time thanks for reading!