As adults we all know men and women have different definitions of words and terms used in the course of a relationship. Most men have figured out when a woman says "nothings wrong" there is usually absolutely SOMETHING wrong. If the man cares he'll do some digging and get to the root of the issue and make corrections. Make no mistake, the artistic use of words works for both men and women. Today we're going to discuss the male use of the word "COOL". You may have heard your man use this word in a number of contexts. Ladies this can be a dangerous word to hear him utter, or it may actually be the extent of the depth of his archaic form of communication. Let's view some examples that Miss Scarlet deems potentially beneficial to your relationship, and some that you may need to revisit and develop an action plan to address.
1. The Anthony Hamilton "If you're cool then I'm cool and we're cool." Interpretation: He is just so content with the flow of your relationship he's beside himself. Your happiness makes him happy but the man thing prevents him from being all mushy...AWWW! He is definitely a keeper so look past his choice of wording and be thankful he's at all in touch with his emotions.
2. "Oh you're going out again...that's cool." Interpretation: "I'm sick of hearing about you shaking your ass in the street every weekend but I got something for that ass!" He's still riding with you but you need to take your activity down a peg before he goes on an ego trip. A man's ego trip leads him down a path paved with bottles of liquor and nameless chicks. I don't care what they say, no man wants to think he's in a competition with an imaginary dude in the club. Ladies we know we go out to cut up for a little while and escape from reality but more than likely your man thinks you're out making change. (Tell him that's only the first Saturday of the months that end in "Y" heh heh heh)
3. "Everything's cool", with a raised octave on the end. Interpretation: Somewhere the shits gone wrong! He is either entertaining bitches or getting ready to engage in some foul activity. Keep him close to you for a while. If he's going out with friends, bring your ass. If he's planning a trip, you book your flight right along with his. And pull out the bag of tricks....that never hurts! His man thing truly wants you there and you can get it back to the mellow tone level of 'COOL'. But never ever underestimate outside bitches. They lay in wait for you to slip off your game. Nevertheless, I have faith in you so do the damn thing!
4. "Everything is cool", in a controlled vocal range from start to finish. Interpretation: You can actually take this dude on face value. He's probably living behind a wall of emotional hurt and doesn't want to verbalize how he feels for fear of rejection or jinxing your "thing". Be patient and see where this secretly passionate member of the male species takes you. You may be pleasantly surprised especially if his actions match up to his verbalization.
5. "We're cool". Interpretation: He's really saying "I'm a player but you're in my top three." He's relaying to you in a twisted sense that you matter to his flow but you're not the only one. What he doesn't realize is you speak the language of cool also and know exactly what he means. If you're smart you have your top three line up on the bench just like he does. I can best describe this one as a seesaw effect. He takes you up, you take him up, he takes you down, you take him down...until you grow nauseous and want to get off this ride and get on the merry go round. While the seesaw is up and down and gives you that rush, the merry-go-round stays at a steady speed and everyone stays on the same level at all times. Make sense? Good!
There are also women out there who speak cool so men you can apply this to them as well. Just remember when "COOL" for you is Interpretation #4, it may be heard as Interpretation #3 to your significant other. Just my opinion.
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