This is for those of you caught up in that stifling-going-no-where
long term relationship. You know the one that forces you to bring him to your
family’s house on Thanksgiving and everyone gives that fake “Oh hiiiiii Greg”,
and as soon as he leaves the room the eyes roll. Ladies some of you are the
ones getting the eyes rolled at too! We’re not exempt from this one. It’s somewhat
similar to the needed relationship but in my opinion even more damaging because
it’s been going on so long. This particular relationship drives you to thoughts
of wrongdoing that may lead you, or your family members, to criminal activity.
If you’ve ever envisioned doing something just a little not nice to the person
whose been sleeping beside you for too many years its time for Self Liberty
over Suffocating Longevity.
Do you sleep in different rooms at least two nights out of
the week?
Do you avoid going directly home from work because you don’t
want to look at him?
Is it physically sickening to hear him or her speak?
Hmmm. If you answered yes to any of these questions maybe
it’s time to rethink your situation.
REPEAT AFTER ME: It’s okay to be alone.
REPEAT AFTER ME: It’s okay to be alone.
Just because I live alone doesn’t
mean I’m lonely.
I don’t need this person to define
me.
I
will put him/her out before I pee on their toothbrush.
I
will not set fire to their belongings.
Sound crazy? It only sounds crazy if you’ve been lucky
enough to avoid a relationship that’s grounded in bullshit. Still don’t get it?
Here’s a visual. Imagine a pile of shit in the middle of your backyard that’s
been growing for so many years and now stinks so bad you can’t even smell it
anymore because you’re used to it. Your neighbors and loved ones can’t even visit
because of that funk permeating from your house. Why do we tolerate these types
of relationships? Here’s my take on it and some advice toward the first step of
recovery.
Anything you have for a long time begins to grow on you.
Those old slippers with the sole coming apart that are so cute and you can’t
throw away because your mom brought them. Those favorite jeans you’ve washed so
much they now have a hole in them but they fit your butt perfectly. Believe it
or not an old stagnant yet visible mate is exactly in the same category as
these non-essential things. Yes he was there for you many, many moons ago but
you were there for him too! There’s no need for the two of you to try to hold
on to fibers of a relationship for the mere point of saying “and we stiiiill
together”. The truth is just because it’s still there doesn’t mean it still
fits in your life plan.
Longevity = PROLONGED EXISTENCE-PERMANENCE-ENDURANCE
I admit everyone has their own timeline and level of
tolerance for different things so we can’t see our own mess sometimes. However,
when you walk into your home with a knot in your stomach its time to liberate
yourself for physical and emotional relief. When you get to the point of
answering yes to the questions I posed above it’s time to move on. If you feel
this way you need to then ask yourself what it is exactly you’ll miss if that
person is no longer there with you? If your answer to this question leans
toward things that are superficial or materialistic you may have crossed that
line into the bad relationship vortex. If it’s about the rent maybe it’s time
to downsize into something you can hold down on your own. I’m not saying it’s
ever easy to transition from having someone in your space all the time to
having a quieter house but my mantra inevitably kicks in “Peace of Mind Is Priceless”
and liberty is for all.
We can come up with numerous excuses why we stay intertwined
with certain people. Whether we say it’s sex-monetary support-low level
companionship…whatever the excuse comes out to be! You CAN survive on your own.
People do grow apart and sometimes people should grow apart if their goals
aren’t complimentary and the situation is becoming volatile.
My final thought is this. If you related to any of this content
ask yourself is this longevity worth losing my liberty? While you think about
it please, please don’t pee on his toothbrush.
Until next time thanks for reading!
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