THE FACT CHECK...FOR WOMEN

THE FACT CHECK...FOR WOMEN

If the man you’re with is not caring for the existing children he has with other women it may be a sign that you should not attempt to procreate the earth with him as the genetic donor. He has already tried it with a few others and doesn’t need any further input from you. While his mouth may say you guys would make beautiful babies, and you would be a wonderful mother, you must think beyond this superficial game and look at facts. The facts are far more important than his false support of your maternal feelings. Fact checking can also deter you from being another member of his “parental entourage”.

Take a moment to review the following. If any apply to your man’s current situation with the mother(s) of his child(ren) you may want to seriously review your research and seek alternate arrangements.

For the record I hate the term ‘Baby Mama’ but I will use it for the purpose of impact herein. Thank you.

FACT #1: The Baby Mama Choir. Defined: He has terrible relationships with all of his children’s mothers and they sing and shout their displeasure every chance they get.

Research Findings: They all have an issue with him, so what is the very basic source of the problem? A, He is either still having physical relationships with them and they’re bitter because he continued to move on and bring other women into the cult. B, He is a deadbeat and doesn’t provide any assistance with their care emotionally or financially.

What this means for you: Flag!! He can’t feed or teach any life skills to one more human being. Truthfully, he’s not even doing so for the ones he’s already obligated to by law. You may want to seriously weigh all the probable outcomes of having to be a single mom.

FACT #2: The Hopeful Baby Mama. Defined: The mother of his child(ren) is a silent parent partner in the care and decisions made for their wellbeing.

Research Findings: This may be the case because he is a control freak and she’s scared to rebut anything he does with the children. He may even used to beat her ass or be emotionally abusive and degrade her in some manner. In most cases she has tried to begin a new romantic relationship and he threw a wrench in it with his bullshit. Ever heard “I don’t want any other men around my kids”? The very worst would be that you personally never see or hear from her because she doesn’t even know about you! Hmmm…interesting.

What this means for you: You may want to hold back some of your feelings about him until you get it all figured out and can identify exactly what type of relationship exists between him and the children’s mother. There may even be the possibility they still have an ongoing physical relationship. He makes her deathly afraid to move on, or she remains hopeful they will be together again one day. Yep! All while trying to reel you into the trap.

FACT #3: The Perfect Baby Mama. Defined: He already has children but all the women he shares them with are crazy…according to him.

Research Findings: This is the man who wants you to bear his children. By the way, he already has children but you’ve never met any of them. He wants to keep trying to build a family with the perfect woman, in the perfect setting, and oh yes just forget about the other families he left behind. They didn’t work out because they didn’t understand HIS plan for them.

What this means for you: Aww he loves you and you’re soul mates...nah-ah...RUN! He may be just a little bit crazy and if you attempt to deviate from his plan he may actually try to kill you. No joke! This ain’t where you wanna be. There’s a reason why he wants to leave his past, including his own flesh and blood children, in the past. Don’t stick around to find out why because he may have that psycho “Stepfather” movie syndrome.

FACT #4: The Long Awaited Baby Mama. Defined: This is the man with no children who has been waiting his whole life for you to be the bearer of his seed.

Research Findings: I hate to say it but every man was not intended to contribute their genes to the good of society. Sometimes a higher power knows all too well this person would not breed any good for mankind. But here you come thinking you’re speciyal because you found some man who has no kids, and you build up his ego so he thinks this makes him some type of prize.

What this means for you: Some women just have to learn on their own but try to be smart and discerning. All I can say is look for the red flashing lights that blind you from his eyes when he’s kicking his bullshit. If he lives with a family member, has no steady income, has no medical insurance, and no self motivation please, please don’t give him anything he can’t handle….like a HELPLESS HUMAN BEING WHO RELIES ON HIM FOR EXISTENCE!!! (Sigh)

I hope these facts are not found in your current relationship or arrangement. My overall point is just because you have the parts; it doesn’t mean you have the emotional strength, financial means, or patience to raise children. The same is true for women. If a woman has children that live with other family members and she just visits them on the weekend, this may be a sign that she is not who you want to start a new family with for one reason or another. Do your research on prospective co-parents of interest. While there aren’t perfect parents, some reasonable sense of accountability and responsibility should be evident in their life.

Throwing all this out the window, ask yourself one question. “Can I effectively communicate with this person for the rest of my life?”

Look out for The Fact Check for Guys coming soon. Thanks for reading!