This cartoon had me at a loss of words as I continued to watch Jack try and get his life together in order of importance working toward his goal. He encountered all types of obstacles but he persevered. I watched this and I thought if Father Time knew this in 1979 why didn't he pass the knowledge down to men through the ages. Should we women not expect a man to come correct in the same manner as this fairytale character? I am compelled to reach out to you via this blog and beg you to not allow anyone seeking your time and attention to fall short of anything less than these same simple yet key achievements. Let's discuss these prerequisites PLEASE!
Prerequisite (noun): Something that you must officially have or do before you can have or do something else.
#1 A House: Believe it or not a man should have a home secured for his woman. I know we women are now caught up in being so equal that we forget about the man being the head of the family and we want in on half of everything. Oops did I say that. Yes I did! There's nothing wrong with half but make sure you're getting half of something good. If he's already got it go with it and turn it lovingly from his to ours. This prerequisite doesn't even have to mean home ownership. In the simplest form it means he should have a safe place to live that he maintains on his own. It shows he is responsible and has the ability to take care of himself and impressively pay monthly bills. This is the type of man you want to build with toward the "ours". Remember lots of things go along with a single man who lives away from his mommy. This means he can minimally feed himself, clean up after himself, and do laundry. Not a big deal to you? You're a liar!
#2 A Horse: Yes historically a man who had a horse proved to be secure and had reached a certain level of status. Modern times would be a means of reliable transportation that he owns himself. Yep I'm gonna say it! If you're driving he should be driving too!!! Why isn't he driving? Does he have a "situation" that hinders him from obtaining a legal drivers license in the state where you reside. FLAG ON THE PLAY I'm not saying he may not be working on getting a vehicle but how old is he and how long has he been working on this project? Please ladies...please...don't be deceived by that short game. Any man over thirty should be somewhat established somewhere. Unless he's just awoken from a coma after being hit in the head by a flying saucer leave him where you found him. God made so many delicious specimens in all shades, races, sizes, and flavors. Try them all....WOO!
#3 A Bag of Gold: This pretty much speaks for itself. In today's terms this could mean a secure job and even better a financial portfolio. Yes ladies there are men who really think about securing pensions and things to bring to the table for sharing with a partner going forward in life. Show me a man who has a bag of gold and I'll show you a good woman who knows enough to nurture him and support him. People may think this is a gold digging statement but I love a man with a pension. I say this because it exemplifies the fact he has maintained profitable employment for a number of years and has a plan for his future. If he plans for himself he will certainly plan for you. PENSION = STABILITY, LONGEVITY & RESPONSIBILITY.
#4. A Wife a.k.a. The Prize: You are a prize and you better know it! If you want to become a wife present yourself in a manner to do so. A good wife is a rock to her husband. She knows when to speak and she knows when to listen. She knows what battles to fight and she knows when to let a man be a man. It's not an easy title by far. I know this! However, if you get a good man who likens himself to Jack Frost and has his prerequisites at least 75% complete you can make that man a good husband by being a good wife. A good wife starts off as a good girlfriend. And the key is to stay that way! Don't change up and fall off your game once you have him hooked. Stay attentive! Stay fabulous! Stay INTERESTED! If he plays golf....play golf! If he watches football....watch football! It won't kill you to be interested in what interests him. This blog is for the ladies but don't expect from him what you wouldn't give of yourself.
My main point today is that we should expect a man to come at us with the correct intentions. A woman should not be afraid of being labeled picky because she won't waste her time with someone who doesn't live up to her minimal expectations. Job check! Housing check! Transportation check! Goals check! For pete's sake these are not even the extras in life. These are bare necessities that every grown ass man should already have established. Allow yourself to be courted and don't be afraid to put your prerequisites out there in the open. Generous check! Affectionate check! Courteous check! If the man you're dealing with can't even pay for dinner or pay you a simple compliment you may want to just stop...period. Contrary to what some may say these small things are important and play a part in how a man will treat you in the future. Think about that.
You can't turn a duck into a swan, a lamb into a lion, or put a leash on a wild dog. You can however meet a reasonable man with initiative somewhere in the middle.
'Til next time thanks for reading!
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