New Year Solutions

The new year is at our door knocking for entry. What is it trying to drop off on our front steps? Maybe its time to peek first and be selective about what you're opening your door to accept into the new year. I propose the ideal of creating a solution for your pending issues rather than just creating your regular laundry list of unattainable resolutions.

Solution, noun: Something that is used or done to deal with and end a problem : something that solves a problem.

Everyone says resolution this and resolution that. However, the new year doesn't mean that everything we've dealt with in the past year will be washed away so easily. Some of us need a Finance Solution, Esteem Solution, Emotional Solution, or Love Solution. I know Miss Scarlet usually only speaks on the Love Solution aspect but the following tips can be used for all solutions we seek. No matter what area you find yourself challenged in you can resolve it with simple steps.

1. Identify It. Before you can fix anything you need to figure out the source of the distress. Please be open to see this for what it really is and don't be biased in the identification process.

2. Draft a realistic plan for change. Don't think you can go from 0 to 60 with everything. Key word here is "realistic". Plan also means steps to take toward the change you desire. Some steps may leave you out of breath but catch your wind and keep on climbing.

3. Gather a support network. As strong as you are you can't do everything alone! Look to those who you see rising above your similar circumstances. Just remember someone who is miserable cannot lift you or offer good support. Be discerning with the members of your network.

4. Time for some ACTION! Don't waste time taking the steps toward your change once you've devised your plan. Procrastination can be a dangerous thing once it sets in and can stifle your progress.

5. Stay Positive. There will be days when you want to quit and feel like forces are working against you. Well guess what? They are! And this is why you have to work twice as hard to stay positive. Write your goals and post them where you can see them daily. Rid yourself of contact with naysayers, kill joys, and Debbie Downers (sorry all my Debbies...nothing personal. I love you ladies too)

I wouldn't be Miss Scarlet if I didn't ask you if one of your hang-ups in 2013 was one of the following.

Are you still seeing that married man?

Are you still unfaithful to your spouse?

Are you still afraid of commitment?

Are you still seeking another person to validate you?

Please evaluate each situation carefully. I can't tell you what to do without knowing the specifics of each case. However, I can tell you that you can use the same steps I've listed above to help you get your breakthrough. I know some of it doesn't sound easy but no solution drops in your lap. Also, don't be afraid to talk to someone about how you feel and seek counsel for steps toward your solutions. Don't fall into the stereotype that if you do this you're crazy or weak minded. Everyone needs help sometimes.

I wish everyone positive and effective solutions for whatever you need to leave in the past year. Whether its intimacy coaching to get your love life together, developing a plan for professional change, purging your personal space, or getting things off your chest you can do it. I'm here to help as a Professional Organizer if you need assistance!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!! We'll talk again soon.