FIGHT FOR ME DAMMIT!

        





         

When will all you wonderful men realize that we women want you to fight for our love? I don't mean literal physical dueling like the days of old. I'm speaking in terms of an emotional commitment and a matter of fact stance on our hearts and bodies. Let's face it, we can say we're strong and super independent but every woman, well most women, want a man to step up and claim her as his own. The natural order of life deems the man the head of the household. If this is true isn't the same apparent for the context of the intimate relationship? Lots of us are tired of doing everything alone and welcome a strong hand to pitch in and say "I got it baby, go sit down". Normally I would write this and plug in some things we women should do for the man to make him want to give us our all. However, today I'm only talking about women who are already grown, doing their damn thing and don't NEED a man but WANT a man. If you missed my explanation of the difference feel free to catch up on this link http://charm4sure.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-need-vs-want.html .

Yes men! The ladies you see paying their own bills do desire your presence in their lives. It's just that we may require a little more attention or effort to gain our trust. We have been handling things alone for so long that authentic interest from a good man is welcomed yet sometimes unbelievable. Stay consistent and attentive to our needs! Communicate your feelings! This is the Fight I'm referring to! Just stay with us while we run that background and if it all checks out we'll ride with you until the wheels fall off. Make sense now?

Ahhhh yes guys we are capable of handling our business AND offering complete packages that allow you to be in control. We just want you to bring something to the table to upgrade our gold level to the platinum level. Don't you want someone to truly be a partner in life instead of a dependent? Don't you want to be able to trust that she can manage the ins and outs of the household affairs and look fabulous doing so? Unfortunately, most of you are stuck dealing with women who either can't breathe without you telling them to, or have never even worked full time and know nothing about stretching a dollar. Listen to me, this will get boring after while and you'll be looking for one of us to stimulate your senses.

All I'm saying today is open your eyes and see the capability of the woman who is a total package. It's not our fault you fell for superficial the first time around so get your mind right and focus on the present. Fight for that good woman to stay by your side because the freak train is not coming! Ladies don't give him too long to figure it out because there are men out there who want to love you, spoil you, have you be their everything, and will claim you with pride for the world to see. It will definitely be his loss.

Just my thought. Thanks for reading!

SEXY IS SIMPLE

In my opinion the rock hard abs and thighs rippling with muscles are nice for a calendar pin up. However, within my reality I don't truly identify these buff bodies as the epitome of a sexy man. Despite all the superficial crap we're taunted with in today's world we must remember that everyone has something great to offer in a relationship in addition to their looks and body shape. The most sexy attributes of a man are the simple things. The outline of his lips as he sleeps. His one arm raised above his head as he sits back in his chair. The intense look on his face as he watches the game. His laugh. Or more simply, the glimmer in his eye he doesn't want you to notice when he first sees you after being apart.

The laws of attraction vary from one human being to another, but what's universal is the need for more than physical stimulation for a fulfilling relationship. That being said, sexy is also portrayed in a man's actions and his method of communication. If he calls to simply say hello and check on how your day is progressing, that's sexy. Him folding his laundry and ironing his clothes is sexy on a level of independence and self value. When he plans an outing for the two of you on his own to make you happy, that's super sexy.

Whether we're talking sexy in his actions or sexy in his appearance it's the little simplistic details that will have him remain appealing to you in the long run. Let's face it, the hunky man who lets the door slam in your face is far less appealing than the average guy who holds the door open for you with a smile. Ladies you'd be surprised what it is about you that men find sexy. Almost 100% of men I've conversed with about this subject never mention boobs or ass as the sexiest thing about women. Be bold and ask a few what's your sexiest attribute. I'm told by the majority that my lips happen to be mine. Could it be men aren't as superficial as we think? That's an entire chapter on its own.

What do I find most sexy about a man? My simple answer is his back. A man's back shows strength that runs from shoulder to shoulder. His back supports his outstretched arms that embrace her tightly, and carry her heavy load when she's tired.  From the curve of his spine where he pushes through pain to work hard so she's content from financial worries. The space between his shoulder blades where she can rest her head when she snuggles up behind him. Yes, I'd have to say a man's back is the sexiest part of his body.

Just my opinion. Thanks for reading!

The Habitual Flirter

 

BEWARE OF THE HABITUAL FLIRTER

 

He's the guy who flirts with you or keeps asking for a date despite your lack of excitement when he calls you "pretty lady" "sexy gal" or "Umph Umph Umph".

 

You may encounter him on your daily trip to Dunkin Donuts or continually run into him at the gas station. If you're really lucky you probably work in the office with him and have little means of escape from his day to day quest to quench his thirst for your time.

 

I hate to tell you that unfortunately he will never stop!

 

All you can do is arm yourself with a few of the things listed below to keep him at an arm's length of distance away from you. I have done extensive research on these responses and for the most part they seem to work or at least keep me safe until the next bout of harassment.

 

LEVEL 1 RESPONSE: The polite "I'm seeing someone".

Forget this! It doesn't work. He will then turn around and offer to be your second or third string date. And believe me he's serious about this so don't even try to be nice and give him a glimmer of hope. Chop him down swift at the knees. Trust Me!

 

LEVEL 2 RESPONSE: Awkward Facial Expressions.

These are hit or miss depending upon the level of thirst your admirer holds. A) The squinty eye, allows you to appear as if you don't understand what he's talking about throw in a "whaaaaaat" and it might work; B) The tightly pursed lips, this look forces him to automatically take one step back; or try C) The flared nostrils, makes you look a little crazy. Your luck he'll just think you're sending him love signals. Remember he's not normal.

 

LEVEL 3 RESPONSE: The Quick Comeback.

Each time he says something repulsing be ready with a snappy reply to deflect his ignorance. Example he starts off with "I'm just sayin' baby girl can we...." Your reply: So how many women are you seeing now? You must go on a lot of dates! Can you really afford to date multiple women? and finally start every sentence with "Yeah the guy I'm seeing..." This level of response definitely shuts him down for a while and he'll need to take time to collect his thoughts. Hence, he walks away, which is your desired outcome.

 

LEVEL 4 RESPONSE: The Deep Sigh of Pity.

This is my favorite! No matter what he says and no matter how bad you want to curse him out just look at him with the most sorrowful face you can put together and sigh long and deep. This will undoubtedly make him say "Damnnnnnn did I do something?" Don't answer him! Just do it again. He will begin to feel slimy and may even apologize but don't really count on it. Just try to make him uncomfortable enough to leave you alone for the rest of the day.

 

Remember all these tactics are just buying you some time to slip away from the habitual flirter until the next time you see him. His mission is to seek you out and tell you things about yourself that you find neither flattering or complimentary. Just keep your head down until his stalker sense alert him that your presence is near.

 

Good luck and thanks for reading!