The X Chronicles...Day 3

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X CHRONICLES…DAY 3 “The Controversial X”

Exes come in all shapes and forms. Today we’re going to talk about two controversial existences. Don’t be ashamed to admit you put up with one or both of these categorical exes. Life is full of experiences and one day you’ll realize it was just that, an experience which led to the person you are today with the outlook and wisdom you now possess. Oh yes, these particular exes will leave you with some real prolific shit on your mind. Walk with me while I take you down this road full of jagged rocks.  

#1 THE EX WHO ALWAYS BELONGED TO SOMEONE ELSE AND YOU FINALLY GAVE THEM BACK

Okay so yeah it’s what it sounds like. The married man/woman got you and fed you some bullshit that tasted like strawberries and ice cream and you ate it up until you remembered you were lactose intolerant. And after you threw it all up and came to your senses their head spun around and the exorcist showed up. These exes mostly behave in one of the following manners that can go in two very extreme opposite directions. Eventually they have to cease and desist but this only happens when their spouse finds their text messages begging you for one more romp.

JODI A) Jodi A can turn in to that stalking married man that does things so crazy you won’t believe he actually has a wife. He’s liable to show up with plane tickets to whisk you away to convince you to stay. Show up banging on your door and have your neighbors peeking out the window ready to call the cops. He will leave notes on your car and even show up at your job. At this point he doesn’t even care who sees him carrying on. Yeah it can get real! The real issue that has him going insane is they can’t handle the reality of you actually tiring of their years of lies and promises to leave their spouse. It’s not the point they didn’t think it would ever happen that’s so upsetting. It’s the fact their spell on you was actually broken and they can’t figure out where they went wrong.  How dare you want more out of your life than to be the best kept secret! In this case just be careful. I sense the need for a restraining order or a visit from your country cousins.

JODI B) This one is a master manipulator. So smooth and slick with his words that your whole world stopped when he called. Just like Jodie A, Jodie B can’t pinpoint where they lost their power but the difference is he will actually try to remain a little more subtle to continue dialogue with you. While you think he’s willing to accept you ending the saga and you’re going to be “just friends”, he’s actually just talking to you long enough to pick your brain to determine what was your breaking point.  After he’s done with you don’t expect any continued contact because he no longer needs you. He will use this data to perfect his game for the next victim. Oh yes no matter what he says, “You’re the last woman I’ll deal with outside my marriage”, he’s a liar. You weren’t the first, second or the last. Leave him where you found him living inside of his self-made prison. There he will die and it’s not your fault!  

#2 THE EX WHO LEFT YOU, IS NOW IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP, BUT STILL WANTS YOU TO THINK IT’S OKAY TO LET THEM COME SPEND THE NIGHT EVERY NOW AND THEN.

Sigh…I just can’t say enough that you should refuse to be used for their spur of the moment enjoyment. Sadly, they’re using all the good stuff you put in them to work in that new relationship and still not getting it right OBVIOUSLY! No matter how much you think you’re either one upping her or now have a better relationship with him because you can “just see him when you wanna” without the commitment, it’s foolish. As the “chosen one” in this scenario we work into our heads that our role in this situation is okay because we had him first and she’s the dumb one because he’s still sleeping with you blah, blah, blah. On the other side the new chick thinks you’re out of the picture because he tells her so (at least until he calls her your name by accident) and she really believes him!

I know it sounds crazy but neither you or the new flame are the fool in this situation. It’s that damn manipulative, greedy, conniving ex! Whether man or woman, no one deserves to continue to reap benefits from a decent relationship they either abandoned or got ejected from. Do not allow them to take the lessons you taught AND your intimacy into a new relationship. Yeah he looks cute the way you taught him to match his clothes and buy shoes without laces. Okay she looks good with the Cuticle Remy hair from the back of the register instead of the bargain box on the floor. So what? I have one concept for you to put in your head every time you grow angry about your invested time and attention, or think about letting them come over to work off their financial and emotional debt…Charity. It’s really that simple. Think of these ignant mofos as private charity cases that you volunteered time for and file them away. This ex truly believes they can achieve some type of status by manipulating people who actually care for them. Eventually it catches up and when it does it's never a happy ending. Who's the fool now?

The best thing you can do for yourself is respect thy self. Don’t let a bum ex take that away from you.

 
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