Today's Thought - Congratulations!

I've recently learned of two marriage proposals and both ladies said "yes" to the men in their lives. My immediate feelings were happiness and pride. The thoughts that followed were the normal will I ever get married again, and it really made me stop and think about that possibility.

I have been divorced and dating for a little over five years now and I've become accustomed to a major lifestyle change. I like my space. I like being able to put my clothes away when I feel like it. I like my perfume bottles all over the dresser and not having to share closet space. I like MY portraits decorating my bedroom walls. I like having an option of whether to cook dinner or just eat ice cream. Single life is happy life and while I'm alone I am not lonely.

On the other hand I envy these women for finding something true. I shy away from saying they've found something "complete" because the presence of a man/woman in your life should not determine your self value. Finding a partner to match your life is a great thing however, and has the potential to bring you a heightened sense of happiness. We are human after all and crave companionship.

So back to me and the rest of us happily single chicks, will we ever get married? As for me, I do enjoy the partnership of marriage and the responsibility of elevating a good man. Making sure he is content and eager to work to provide for me. Guiding him in the right direction with love and support. Allowing him to lead me in the right direction toward our mutual goals. Will I ever get married again? I think the answer lies inside the unidentified man who knows when I need to hold his hand, when I need him to just listen, when I need him to kick in extra, when I need him to take charge! He's the man who will be able to handle my overt expression of emotion, understand my sense of humor, and read my face before I speak.

I guess my thought out loud today is congratulations to the engaged women! Know that it comes genuinely from us single ladies who still believe in love and marriage and know that we should hold out for the man who is worthy of our fabulosity, complimentary to our strengths, considerate of our weaknesses, and worth us giving up that shoe closet. Ladies the reality is we will be okay as long as we remember marriage is something we WANT but don't NEED for our success and happiness.

Thanks for reading!