LIBERTY Over LONGEVITY

Liberty Over Longevity

This is for those of you caught up in that stifling-going-no-where long term relationship. You know the one that forces you to bring him to your family’s house on Thanksgiving and everyone gives that fake “Oh hiiiiii Greg”, and as soon as he leaves the room the eyes roll. Ladies some of you are the ones getting the eyes rolled at too! We’re not exempt from this one. It’s somewhat similar to the needed relationship but in my opinion even more damaging because it’s been going on so long. This particular relationship drives you to thoughts of wrongdoing that may lead you, or your family members, to criminal activity. If you’ve ever envisioned doing something just a little not nice to the person whose been sleeping beside you for too many years its time for Self Liberty over Suffocating Longevity.

Do you sleep in different rooms at least two nights out of the week?

Do you avoid going directly home from work because you don’t want to look at him?

Is it physically sickening to hear him or her speak?

Hmmm. If you answered yes to any of these questions maybe it’s time to rethink your situation.

REPEAT AFTER ME:      It’s okay to be alone.

                                           Just because I live alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely.

                                           I don’t need this person to define me.

                                           I will put him/her out before I pee on their toothbrush.

                                           I will not set fire to their belongings.

Sound crazy? It only sounds crazy if you’ve been lucky enough to avoid a relationship that’s grounded in bullshit. Still don’t get it? Here’s a visual. Imagine a pile of shit in the middle of your backyard that’s been growing for so many years and now stinks so bad you can’t even smell it anymore because you’re used to it. Your neighbors and loved ones can’t even visit because of that funk permeating from your house. Why do we tolerate these types of relationships? Here’s my take on it and some advice toward the first step of recovery.

Anything you have for a long time begins to grow on you. Those old slippers with the sole coming apart that are so cute and you can’t throw away because your mom brought them. Those favorite jeans you’ve washed so much they now have a hole in them but they fit your butt perfectly. Believe it or not an old stagnant yet visible mate is exactly in the same category as these non-essential things. Yes he was there for you many, many moons ago but you were there for him too! There’s no need for the two of you to try to hold on to fibers of a relationship for the mere point of saying “and we stiiiill together”. The truth is just because it’s still there doesn’t mean it still fits in your life plan.  

Longevity = PROLONGED EXISTENCE-PERMANENCE-ENDURANCE

I admit everyone has their own timeline and level of tolerance for different things so we can’t see our own mess sometimes. However, when you walk into your home with a knot in your stomach its time to liberate yourself for physical and emotional relief. When you get to the point of answering yes to the questions I posed above it’s time to move on. If you feel this way you need to then ask yourself what it is exactly you’ll miss if that person is no longer there with you? If your answer to this question leans toward things that are superficial or materialistic you may have crossed that line into the bad relationship vortex. If it’s about the rent maybe it’s time to downsize into something you can hold down on your own. I’m not saying it’s ever easy to transition from having someone in your space all the time to having a quieter house but my mantra inevitably kicks in “Peace of Mind Is Priceless” and liberty is for all.

Liberty = FREEDOM INDEPENDENCE EMANCIPATION

We can come up with numerous excuses why we stay intertwined with certain people. Whether we say it’s sex-monetary support-low level companionship…whatever the excuse comes out to be! You CAN survive on your own. People do grow apart and sometimes people should grow apart if their goals aren’t complimentary and the situation is becoming volatile.
 

My final thought is this. If you related to any of this content ask yourself is this longevity worth losing my liberty? While you think about it please, please don’t pee on his toothbrush.

Until next time thanks for reading!

 

Today's Thought...Whose more vulnerable?

Contrary to popular belief Men are more vulnerable and worry more about how they are perceived by the opposite sex than Women. I think this is why God made us for them. He knew we were a good thing and absolutely necessary to keep the man from completely obliterating himself as a result of a bad ego trip.

The next time your man does or says something absolutely stupid that shows his vulnerability don't flip out and yell or display your superior intellect. Believe me there will plenty more occasions when you get to challenge him and be right about a situation. Just look at him and smile, rub his head and tell him you love him. It's important for you to know when he's in the state of macho instability and it's not the right time for the She-Ra type response. Just let him go through the wave of emotion until he realizes he's being an ass. He'll come down and you'll be there waiting with the towel to brush the dust off his ego. Every good man deserves to have his moment and a good woman knows when to bite her tongue off!

'Til next time thanks for reading!