Are you girlfriend material?

Sometimes we get into situations with men and over exaggerate to our friends, and even sadder mislead our own selves, that we have entered into an emotionally reciprocal arrangement. Unfortunately, thanks to the growing number of women who demand minimal yet provide the optimal experience to men, the requirements to win the game continue to decline to a low standardized place.

Please ladies, if very simple things are not occurring in your relationship YOU ARE NOT HIS GIRLFRIEND! I can hear you saying "Like what Miss Scarlet?" Well beautiful, here are some tell tale signs you are not his woman in his head. 

1. You've never met his family. (His crew on the street don't count....sorry)

2. He has never, ever taken you out to any public places. (A man whose fond of you is proud of you)

3. He's never spent any money on you. (Not superficial, FACT! Even a financially challenged man makes a way if he's interested)

4. He's never shared any of his business with you. (Banking, Family History, etc)

5. You don't know where he is most of the time. (NUFF SAID)

6. You don't know his dreams and life goals (You should be the first person he shares them with)

7. You share no quiet time. (If you can't spend time without sex involved he's definitely not your man)

I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it's some tough reality. So what do you do? First figure out if you're okay with this role....if you really like this guy and you say "I don't care", you're lying to yourself. Save all that time and attention for a man who wants it and is smart enough to realize you have lots to offer. If he's a good man he will know your worth and work to build that pedestal to place you upon. However, if you allow yourself to be put inside that after nine box you've already lost with this man. You can never recreate a first impression so be smart and tactful from the beginning. You can't go from jump off to wifey. Sorry. Time to shake him off and raise your standards! 

Thanks for reading.

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Today's Thought...Dating Xtras??

The Left Side Says: Wow! Dude goes out of his way to hold doors open, kicks in or pays for 70% of everything, checks on you day and night when he can't see you, and when you do spend time you can see in his eyes he is happy to be around you. He does all he can to keep his lips from the nape of your neck and his hands from cradling yours in such a lovingly manner. He always, ALWAYS makes sure you're pleased in every way.

 

AND THEN...The Right Side Says: Aren't these all things that he's supposed to do?

It's a sad state of dating affairs when the little stuff that should be commonplace have now turned into "perks". In a true relationship a man should lose his breath when he sees you making your way toward him. His voice should raise an octave or his lips should spread at the sight of you. When you find yourself in the company of a man who is unsure of where to place his hands you've found a good one.    

I'm not saying things will always be perfect, but they should always be loving. Even in disagreement he should respect your position and not belittle your input. When you're feeling low he should do his best to raise your spirits. He should, at minimal, display some basic mamma taught manners and treat you like a lady. In my opinion you have less tolerance for ill behavior when you're a woman who has had an opportunity to experience how it feels to be truly loved.

When you do find yourself in the consistent company of a man and he gives you his quality time, not just his penis, but he needs a little help in the mandatory dating minimals, Help Him! Don't lose a good man foundation because he forgets to open the car door sometimes, just give him a "loving" nudge in the direction you wish him to go. If he's that guy for you he will conform to meet your reasonable requests.

On the contrary, if he's not doing these things and is totally unwilling to accept constructive criticism or acknowledge when your feelings are hurt, he just may not be the one for you think about implanting into your futuristic life plans. He may not even respect the interaction you share! In that case your common sense should tell you how to proceed with the relationship. Don't allow anyone to take advantage of your loving nature or your kindness. Life is too short to be unhappy!

Thanks for reading!