Sometimes you're just not sure what the heck your relationship status is so I'm here to help. You might wake up one day and be appalled that you find yourself in a real somewhat/maybe/sorta/kinda committed arrangement with another human being. It's happened to the best of us players but don't fret because maybe you're not!
Here's a little checklist to either set your mind at ease so you can keep playing in the streets, or maybe you'll realize you need to stop the bullshit and come to terms with your status.
If you answer "Yes" or "Sometimes" to any of these questions you're in a relationship (sorry).
When you get an invite to an event do you automatically put "2" on your RSVP?
If you're asked to bring them something to eat do you know what to order for them without asking?
Have you turned down sex from another human being that you know would result in fireworks because it just wouldn't be right?
Do you make up excuses not to go on dates but don't say it's because you're in a relationship? (yep that counts cuz you're in denial)
Do you stop flirting with people when it gets to the point of them asking you seriously out on a date?
Are you privy to any of their personal account information or passwords? (Woah! You're in DEEP!)
Do you have a spare key to the house just in case they get locked out? (Umm hmm that's your man)
Alright my booed up confused readers, now don't go getting antsy about needing a title to prove your place in someone's life. If your happy and you know it let it flow!
DISCLAIMER: If the other party involved in this "relationship" goes home at night to sleep in the bed with a third party you are in an In-Law situation. Meaning you either have a Husband-In-Law or a Wife-In-Law and are part of a love triangle. Good Luck!
Until Next Time....Thanks for reading!
Wednesday, April 19, 2017
Today's Thought: The oohs and the aahs
"GM beautiful" "I hope you had a great day baby" "You wearin sumthin sexy today" "I wanna see u" "I miss u"
As corny as these text messages read to you now, these are the most basic words and coming from the right man source will set your mood into the happy zone. My short thought today isn't really about the oohs and aahs we receive, but the reciprocal exchange of those very same oohs and ahhs.
If you have a piece of man who you find yourself always uplifting and sending positive words and happy thoughts about how you feel about him, but he NEVER, EVER sends you back any similar thoughts or compliments, it's time to reevaluate the level of energy you're spending on his ego boost. You are engaged in a one-sided love affair and/or supporting a healthy state of mind for someone who may just not really be that into you. Sadly, he may even be a man who doesn't know how to express himself but that's not your problem! I don't even care if the "Have a nice day" response comes from a man who doesn't have all his ducks in a row, it still makes you feel nice. At some point within the context of each intimate situation you will sit and think about its future outcome. Whether you will keep this person as a booty call or date buddy, or test their potential as a life partner, it WILL cross your mind. As you put your feelings out there make short work of the response you receive and if the admiration you feel isn't matched, or even somewhat acknowledged in this simplest exchange, come to terms, push on, and save it for the right one. Remove that rude booty call dude from your daily check-in list. He's not worthy of sentences full of niceties.
I guess my point is stop giving people extra attention that don't care too much about you. I'm not saying your guy friend doesn't like you, but he either has issues with communicating his feelings, or he just doesn't feel a strong emotional connection to you. You'll figure it out by the way the relationship grows or stagnates. Don't waste all that love and affection on someone who apparently doesn't need it from you. That shit is exhausting! Look for someone who thinks the most of you and values your input. And I'm not talking about the guy who shoots you the "GM" and then you don't hear from him for days. I'm talking about the dude who isn't so arrogant that he runs after you when you give a little chase and makes you feel secure about your relationship when you have doubts. More than likely he really thinks about you and enjoys being around you. He's the one who initiates time spent with you, knows how to accept a compliment and is courteous enough to issue one back genuinely. Oooohh ahhhh he knows and values what you give to him so save the good stuff for him. Don't let a grown ass man fool you into thinking he doesn't know what you mean when you state how you feel about him. He's playing dumb so play him dumb.
Just today's thought. Thanks for reading.
As corny as these text messages read to you now, these are the most basic words and coming from the right man source will set your mood into the happy zone. My short thought today isn't really about the oohs and aahs we receive, but the reciprocal exchange of those very same oohs and ahhs.
If you have a piece of man who you find yourself always uplifting and sending positive words and happy thoughts about how you feel about him, but he NEVER, EVER sends you back any similar thoughts or compliments, it's time to reevaluate the level of energy you're spending on his ego boost. You are engaged in a one-sided love affair and/or supporting a healthy state of mind for someone who may just not really be that into you. Sadly, he may even be a man who doesn't know how to express himself but that's not your problem! I don't even care if the "Have a nice day" response comes from a man who doesn't have all his ducks in a row, it still makes you feel nice. At some point within the context of each intimate situation you will sit and think about its future outcome. Whether you will keep this person as a booty call or date buddy, or test their potential as a life partner, it WILL cross your mind. As you put your feelings out there make short work of the response you receive and if the admiration you feel isn't matched, or even somewhat acknowledged in this simplest exchange, come to terms, push on, and save it for the right one. Remove that rude booty call dude from your daily check-in list. He's not worthy of sentences full of niceties.
I guess my point is stop giving people extra attention that don't care too much about you. I'm not saying your guy friend doesn't like you, but he either has issues with communicating his feelings, or he just doesn't feel a strong emotional connection to you. You'll figure it out by the way the relationship grows or stagnates. Don't waste all that love and affection on someone who apparently doesn't need it from you. That shit is exhausting! Look for someone who thinks the most of you and values your input. And I'm not talking about the guy who shoots you the "GM" and then you don't hear from him for days. I'm talking about the dude who isn't so arrogant that he runs after you when you give a little chase and makes you feel secure about your relationship when you have doubts. More than likely he really thinks about you and enjoys being around you. He's the one who initiates time spent with you, knows how to accept a compliment and is courteous enough to issue one back genuinely. Oooohh ahhhh he knows and values what you give to him so save the good stuff for him. Don't let a grown ass man fool you into thinking he doesn't know what you mean when you state how you feel about him. He's playing dumb so play him dumb.
Just today's thought. Thanks for reading.
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